Tips & Advices
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Tips & Advices - How to Succeed
Read and follow our Tips & Advice and make it easier to find your Perfect Match
1: Registration Process
1: The first step in your Au Pair journey is registering online at activeaupair.com. Sign up for free and start a once – in – a – lifetime experience. Create your profile today here on Active Au Pair International [ activeaupair.com ]
2: We offer all Candidates a FREE ACCOUNT and the possibility to find your Dream Work abroad & your Dream Employer.
3: The registration process is easy. Just fill inn the form, answer the questions, confirm and send in. The reason why we have all this questions in the register form is to avoid scammers and “robot machine’s” to create fake accounts. This is for your own security.
Go for it and Welcome to Active Au Pair International.
2: How to make your Profile more Attractive
- Creating an attractive and complete au pair profile is key to finding the right host family. Make sure your profile includes well – written texts, clear photos, and relevant references.
- Your profile should feature a short personal introduction and explain your motivation for becoming an au pair. Don’t forget to include details about your hobbies, interests, and relevant experiences.
- What are your strengths and areas for growth?
- What age group of children would you prefer to care for?
- How long are you hoping to stay as an au pair?
- What do you imagine daily life with your host family will be like?
- Would you like to be fully integrated into your host family’s life, or do you prefer more independence during your free time?
- What household or childcare tasks are you comfortable handling?
- Do you have any special dietary needs, vegetarian, vegan, allergies?
- Do you already have childcare experience?
- If possible, write your profile in the official language of your chosen host country – even if your language skills are basic. Use short, simple sentences. You may also include translations in multiple languages if you like. The most important rule is always be honest and authentic.
- Add Photos That Tell Your Story.
- Photos speak volumes! Include images of yourself with your family, caring for children, traveling, or enjoying your hobbies. This helps host families get a better sense of who you are.
- Include References and Certifications.
- Upload references from previous host families or other sources. If you have certificates – for example, in language training or first aid – be sure to include them in your profile.
- If you’re not seeing many potential host families, try adjusting your search criteria. A small change can make a big difference!
Hope these Tips & Advices helps you to improve your profile to something more attractive for the Employer’s & Host Families.
3: Start your Search
- Search for the Right Host Family – Use our advanced search filters to browse host family profiles based on your preferences. Go to your dashboard and click on “Matching Families.” You’ll see a list of families that match your criteria. Visit their profiles and click the star icon to add your favourites to your Hotlist.
- Start the Conversation – Send a free standard message to families you’re interested in. Families can choose to accept or decline your request. If the family has a Premium account, they can send you personalized messages, and you’ll be able to chat directly on the platform.
- To increase your chances of finding the right host family, stay active and engage in multiple conversations. This will help you connect with different families and choose the one that best fits your personality and expectations.
- If you prefer not to be contacted by a certain family, simply click the block icon on their profile. If a family sends you inappropriate messages or you encounter any problems, click the exclamation mark to report abuse and describe the issue.
- Do your research and be informed before you commit. Read all available information on AuPair.com about your desired host country.
- For detailed visa information, contact the appropriate authorities.
4: How to Communicate
- Be Polite and Professional – Start every message with a greeting and introduce yourself. Use respectful language and show interest in the family or position you’re applying for. Example: Dear Host Family, my name is Anna. I’m 22 years old and Norwegian. I am currently living in Denmark and I am looking for a warm and active family to join as an au pair As soon as possible.
- Personalize Your Message – Avoid copying and pasting the same message to everyone. Mention something specific from their profile that caught your attention, and explain why you think you’re a good match.
- Highlight Your Strengths – Briefly describe your skills, experience, and personality. Let them know how you can contribute to their family or organization.
- Finally a Warning. If you haven’t been communicated with someone or the family before, – Never send a message only with the words: hi, hello or whatever personal shortcut message. You will then quickly be rejected.
Good luck in your Search.
5: Arrange Online Meeting and Prepare for Detail Talks
- If you prefer not to be contacted by a certain family, simply click the block icon on their profile. If a family sends you inappropriate messages or you encounter any problems, click the exclamation mark to report abuse and describe the issue.
- Do Your Research. Be informed before you commit. Read all available information on activeaupair.com about your desired host country. Click here to explore popular au pair destinations.
For detailed visa information, contact the appropriate authorities. - Schedule a video interview
after connecting on the platform, move the conversation to video calls on your preferred app. We strongly recommend having at least three video calls before making a final decision. This gives you time to assess compatibility and go over important details about the stay and the contract. - Sign up a Au Pair Contract or a normal Work Contract once everything is agreed upon, customize and sign the official au pair contract, which you can download for free. Make sure both you and your host family sign the contract before your arrival. The same is for a normal Work Contract.
5: How to Detect and Expose Scammers
How to Detect and Expose Scammers.
Online scammers often appear convincing, but there are clear warning signs you can look for. Protect yourself by staying alert and following these tips:
- Be Cautious with Personal Information
Never share sensitive details like your ID, bank account, or address with people you don’t fully trust or haven’t verified. - Watch for Red Flags
Scammers often use poor grammar, pressure you to act quickly, or avoid video calls and face-to-face meetings. Be careful with profiles that seem too perfect. - Verify Identities
Do a background check. Ask for references or proof of identity. If you’re unsure, contact the company or platform they claim to represent. - Trust Your Instincts
If something feels off, it probably is. Don’t ignore your gut feeling – walk away if you sense anything suspicious. - Report Suspicious Activity
Help protect others by reporting scammers to the website, platform, or relevant authorities. Never try to confront a scammer directly. - The “Perfect Family”
Stock Photo Look Images – The image often looks overly polished or professional – like it was taken from a commercial or brochure. You might see perfect lighting, smiling people in staged poses, or backgrounds that don’t look lived-in. A luxurious backyard, beach house, or poolside scene that could be anywhere in the world, often labelled as “Miami” or “Florida.” Everyone in the photo is extremely attractive, well-dressed, and coordinated. Mark these words: If something is – To good to be True – It’s normally not True. - Never send Money to unknown People.
Many fake families or scammers pretend to be from the U.S., especially Florida or Miami. They often use a Gmail account for contact and, after some time, will ask for upfront payments to cover visa or other ‘processing’ costs. Just be CAREFUL.
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Clients' testimonials
Aldona - 26 - Lithuania
Dėl Active Au Pair radau savo šeimą Prancūzijoje. Po beveik 3 metų paieškų man pagaliau pavyko.
Hannah - 33 - Germany
In Oslo als persönliche Assistentin und in der Apotheke zu arbeiten – eine perfekte Lösung für mich.
Lousiana - 33 - Spain
As a freelance reporter I am always happy for extra media work. Here in Spain regarding the climate situation.
Margaretha - 23 - Sweden
To work as a housekeeper and personal assistant for me has always been okay because of the free accommodation.
When we decided to get our first Au Pair, we was full of mixed feelings about - From Where? We discussed this at home and got some advice from Active Au Pair International [ activeaupair.com ] - Our Filipina Au Pair arrived May 2025.
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We did find our au pair much easier then we expected. Perfect!
Travel doesn’t just take you to places, it takes you deeper into your own mind. The forest offered no directions, yet I never felt lost on the most important journey of all.
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